Narcissistic Abuse Therapy (London & Online)

Reclaim your reality. Rebuild self-trust. Come home to yourself.

If you’ve been second-guessing your memory, replaying conversations, or you’ve been told you are “too sensitive”, you’re not alone.

Relational harm that involves gaslighting, manipulation, or chronic emotional invalidation can leave you with a particular kind of exhaustion: not only heartbreak, but the slow erosion of your inner compass.

Therapy can help you restore clarity, strengthen boundaries, and reconnect with the part of you that knows what’s true.

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A gentle, no-pressure call to see if working together feels right.

You might be in the right place if…

• You keep thinking: “Maybe I’m the problem.”

• You over explain, justify, or rehearse what you’ll say

• You feel confused after interactions, even when nothing “obviously” happened

• You walk on eggshells or scan for mood changes

• You’ve been blamed for their reactions, needs, or behaviour

• You struggle to trust your instincts, even in safe relationships

• You’ve left (or are leaving), but you still feel tangled, guilty, ashamed, or hooked

• This pattern echoes something earlier (family, culture, community, work)
  

A quick note on labels

You don’t need to diagnose anyone for therapy to help.

Some people use the phrase “narcissistic abuse” to describe a pattern of relational harm. In our work, we focus on impact: what happened, how it shaped you, and what you need now to feel steady and whole again.

What narcissistic or emotionally abusive dynamics can feel like

People often describe:

Reality distortion: feeling unsure what’s true, what you said, what you “meant”

Self-erasure: shrinking needs, softening opinions, becoming “easy” to avoid fallout
Hypervigilance: constant monitoring of tone, timing, mood, and consequence
Shame and self-blame: an internalised voice that criticises you before anyone else can
Relational whiplash: warmth and closeness followed by contempt, withdrawal, or punishment
Isolation: feeling embarrassed, misunderstood, or unable to explain what’s happening

Often the deepest wound is not one event — it’s the long-term experience of having to argue for your own reality.

Why it can be hard to leave (or hard to “get over it”)

From the outside, it can seem simple. From the inside, it often isn’t.

You might still feel attached because of:

• cycles of closeness and harm (the “good” moments keep hope alive)

• fear, obligation, guilt, or cultural/family pressure

• co-parenting, finances, housing, workplace power dynamics

• the survival strategy of trying harder: “If I get it right, I’ll be safe.”
  

In therapy, we treat this with respect. What kept you there may not be weakness — it may be a brilliant adaptation to a painful environment.

What changes in therapy

Over time, clients often notice:

• Clearer thinking (less rumination, less confusion, more internal steadiness)

• Stronger boundaries (without spiralling into guilt or over-explaining)

• Restored self-trust (being able to hold your reality with confidence)

• Nervous system settling (less hypervigilance, shutdown, or walking-on-eggshells energy)

• Freedom to choose (relationships that feel mutual, safe, and adult-to-adult)
  

How I can help

My work is integrative and transpersonal; we attend to mind, body, relationship, and meaning. Healing here isn’t only cognitive; it’s also relational, somatic, and deeply personal.

Rebuilding self-trust and reality

We strengthen your capacity to say:

“This is what happened. This is what I felt. This is what I know.”

Not as a performance — but as an internal return.

Working with the parts of you that had to adapt

Many people develop inner roles: the appeaser, the watcher, the over-explainer, the one who never asks for too much.

We don’t shame these parts. We get curious:

• What were they protecting you from?

• What did they learn about safety and love?

• What would it mean to let you lead again?
  
  

Repairing the body’s “yes/no” signals

These dynamics often disrupt bodily knowing — you may notice anxiety, numbness, shutdown, tightness, or feeling detached from your desire.

We work gently with the nervous system so your body becomes a home again, not a battlefield.

Grief, anger, and reclaiming life-force

There may be grief for what you hoped for — and anger for what was taken or distorted.

Both can be part of restoration. Anger is often the psyche saying: “That mattered. I mattered.”

Reorientation: who you are after this

As self-trust returns, a deeper question often emerges:

What do I want now? What kind of love and respect do I require? What is my life asking of me?

This is where healing becomes not only recovery, but a return to your innate self.

Practicalities

Location: London & online

• Consultation: free 30-minute call

• Sessions: typically weekly (or another rhythm we agree together)

• Fees: £70–£100 per session (adjust to match your current structure)

• Session length: 50 minutes
  

If you’re unsure whether what you experienced “counts” — you’re welcome to bring that uncertainty. We can start exactly where you are.

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