Boundaries, Belonging and Self-Trust
How can we stay connected to other people without repeatedly leaving ourselves behind?
Receive the booking link before the public launch, plus early access to six £39 tickets.
What to Expect
A live, 90-minute online reflective workshop for people who would like to understand their boundary patterns with greater compassion, clarity and self-trust.
Rather than offering simplistic advice to “just say no”, this workshop explores why boundaries can feel emotionally complicated, especially when saying no has become connected to guilt, conflict, rejection, responsibility or fears about losing an important relationship.
Through gentle teaching, guided private reflection, body-aware practices, and practical exercises, you will have space to understand your patterns and experiment with small, realistic ways to respond differently.
Join the priority list for early access to six £39 tickets.
❋ Date: Wednesday 21 October 2026
❋ Time: 6.30–8.00 pm UK time
❋ Format: Live online via Zoom
❋ Group size: Maximum 16 participants
❋ Early-bird ticket: £39; six places available
❋ Standard ticket: £49
❋ Concession ticket: £30 — limited availability
At a glance
What is this workshop about?
Boundaries are often presented as a matter of assertiveness. But for many people, they touch something deeper.
Perhaps being helpful, accommodating, or easy to rely on once helped you stay connected to others. Perhaps keeping the peace felt safer than expressing disagreement. Perhaps you became great at noticing other people’s needs while gradually losing touch of your own needs, capacity, feelings, or limits.
These patterns do not mean that there is something wrong with you. They may have developed through family relationships, cultural or gendered expectations, caring roles, past experiences of conflict, or environments where your needs did not feel welcome.
Yet a pattern that once helped preserve connection can eventually leave you exhausted, resentful or disconnected from yourself.
This workshop offers space to understand what your boundary patterns may have been protecting, acknowledge what they cost you now, and consider how you might respond differently without becoming harsh, rigid or uncaring.
The intention is not to withdraw care from others. It is to explore whether care, connection and consideration can coexist with a clearer relationship to your own needs.
“Boundaries are not only about saying no. They are part of remembering who we are, staying connected to our own wants and needs, and trusting that we can care for others without leaving ourselves behind.”
This workshop may be for you if you
❋ Say yes before checking what you genuinely want or have capacity for
❋ Feel guilty, anxious or uncertain after setting a limit
❋ Fear disappointing people, creating conflict or being misunderstood
❋ Over-explain your needs, decisions or boundaries
❋ Feel responsible for other people’s comfort or emotional response.
❋ Notice exhaustion, resentment or disconnection after repeatedly overriding yourself
❋ Find it hard to recognise or trust your emotional and bodily signals
❋ Struggle to distinguish between guilt and genuine responsibility
❋ Worry that setting a boundary could change or damage a relationship
❋ Long to remain connected to others without losing contact with yourself
Created with women in mind, particularly those accustomed to caring for, accommodating or carrying responsibility for others.
Adults of all genders who recognise these experiences are warmly welcome.
What we will explore
During the workshop, we will gently explore:
❋ How boundary patterns can become connected to safety, belonging and the wish to preserve relationships
❋ How family roles, cultural expectations and earlier relational experiences can shape what feels permissible
❋ What an automatic “yes” may be trying to protect
❋ Why guilt does not always mean that you have done something wrong
❋ The difference between taking responsibility for harm and trying to prevent another person from ever feeling disappointed
❋ How the body may communicate strain, reluctance, fear or a need for more time
❋ How to create a pause between receiving a request and giving an answer
❋ Boundary language that helps you be clear without becoming unnecessarily harsh
❋ Small ways to strengthen trust in your own perceptions, needs and decisions
You will not be expected to resolve every boundary difficulty in one session. The aim is to understand one pattern more clearly and identify one realistic place to begin.
What will we do?
The workshop combines gentle teaching with private and optional experiential activities, including:
❋ A short grounding practice to help you arrive and settle
❋ Guided reflection on one boundary pattern in your life
❋ Private journalling prompts
❋ A body-aware check-in to notice how needs and limits may be communicated
❋ A simple creative mapping exercise using words, shapes or images; no artistic ability is needed
❋ Practical exercises using everyday boundary phrases
❋ A closing reflection to identify one small and realistic next step
All activities are invitations, not requirements. You may adapt or skip any practice, keep your eyes open during the grounding practice, and keep all reflections private.
Speaking is invited but never required. Cameras may remain off. You will not be asked to recount personal or traumatic experiences, and the session will not be recorded.
About your facilitator
Jamila Andersson
Jamila Andersson is a UKCP Full Clinical Member, integrative transpersonal psychotherapist and founder of Remember Who We Are Therapy.
Her work draws on an interest in identity, belonging, trauma, cultural and family expectations, relational patterns, the body, and self-trust. She creates reflective spaces where people can slow down, make meaning of what has shaped them and reconnect with their own needs, perceptions and inner knowing.
At the heart of Remember Who We Are Therapy is the belief that healing is not about becoming someone entirely new. It can be about gradually reconnecting with the parts of ourselves that may have been silenced, hidden, or set aside to survive, stay connected, or belong.
This workshop draws on that philosophy. It does not ask participants to become more rigid or less caring. Instead, it explores how care for others can coexist with self-respect, clearer limits and a more trusting relationship with oneself.
By the end of the workshop, you will have:
❋ A clearer understanding of one boundary pattern in your life
❋ Greater insight into what that pattern may once have protected
❋ A simple process for pausing before an automatic response
❋ Reflective questions for recognising your needs and capacity
❋ Practical boundary phrases that can be adapted to different situations
❋ A clearer way of thinking about guilt, disappointment and responsibility
❋ One small, personally meaningful step towards strengthening self-trust
What you will take away
Participants will receive a short digital Coming Back to Yourself reflection guide after the workshop. It includes key ideas, the pause-and-respond practice, example boundary phrases and questions for continued reflection.
This is an educational and reflective workshop for personal exploration.
It is not group therapy, professional training, CPD, crisis support, or a substitute for individual therapeutic, psychiatric or medical care.
No previous experience of therapy, workshops or body-aware practices is needed.
This workshop may not be the best setting if you are currently in a significant mental-health crisis, need immediate or intensive emotional support, or feel that reflecting on boundaries in a group context is likely to become overwhelming.
If you are unsure whether the format is suitable, you may wish to speak with your therapist, GP or another professional who knows your circumstances. You are also welcome to email me questions about the workshop format. I cannot provide an individual clinical assessment by email.
What this workshop is—and is not
Join the priority list
Join the priority list to receive the booking link before the workshop is announced publicly, together with information about the six early-bird tickets. Joining the list does not reserve a place or guarantee early-bird access. There is no obligation to book.
Booking is expected to open approximately 3 weeks before the workshop date. Priority-list subscribers will receive a reminder email 48 hours before booking opens, followed by the booking link before it is shared publicly.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Participants will be invited to respect the privacy of anything shared by others. However, as with any online group, complete confidentiality cannot be guaranteed. You are therefore encouraged to share only what feels appropriate, and you will never be required to disclose personal experiences.
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The workshop will take place live on Zoom. Automated captions will be enabled; cameras are optional, and you may participate through chat rather than speaking aloud.
You are welcome to change position, stretch, take a break, or briefly leave and rejoin whenever needed. All accompanying resources will be provided digitally.
If you have a particular access requirement, please contact me before booking, or as soon as possible afterwards. You do not need to disclose a diagnosis—only the adjustment that may support your participation. I may not be able to meet every request, but I will respond honestly about what I can offer.
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Boundaries, belonging and self-trust can bring up meaningful feelings. The workshop will be gently paced, with clear choices about how you take part.
You can keep reflections private, switch off your camera, step away from an exercise or take a break at any point. Brief grounding practices will be included.
I will support the group through clear boundaries, reminders of participant choice and by avoiding pressure to disclose. However, this is an educational workshop rather than group therapy, so I cannot provide individual therapeutic or crisis support during the session.
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The session will not be recorded. Participants will be asked not to take photographs, screenshots, or make their own recordings.
You may use your preferred first name as your Zoom display name. We will share the Zoom link only with registered participants. At the beginning of the workshop, participants will be asked to treat others’ identities, experiences and comments with care and not discuss identifiable details outside the session.
Although we will take reasonable steps to protect privacy, confidentiality in any group setting cannot be absolutely guaranteed, because each participant is responsible for respecting the agreement. For additional privacy, please join from a private space where possible and consider using headphones.
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You can reach us anytime via our contact page or email. We aim to respond quickly—usually within one business day.